THE CLUB'S STORY
Plight Club is for anyone who wants to make change. The goal of it is to inspire and empower people to talk about how they feel to create a global community that looks out for each other because they want to connect on a deeper level.
The club started from a place of anxiety and not being able to show one’s true self. I've suffered from anxiety bouts for as long as I can remember but, at the start of 2019, one was so bad I lost a lot of weight and slept about 10 hours in a week. Something had to change.
The stigma around talking about feelings and mental health is sadly still massively at large. It's 2020 and being vulnerable is still seen as a weakness. Which is bollocks because showing up as who you are, warts and all is one of the bravest things anyone can do. But perception is powerful so people fear to do it and until we can face our own fears society won't change.
The story of the club to date is one of experimentation. Working as a business growth consultant I encourage people to try new things in order to grow their business. It makes sense, how else will they otherwise. There's a process to it so I thought I'd do the same thing in my personal life.
This led me to try therapy and start a support group. Therapy gave direction and a framework for my experimentation - more on that here. Mainly, I learned to move into anxiety rather than run from it. Learning to do that is tough but so worth it. However, it was from the support group the insight that started Plight Club was found.
Individually feeling trapped, a group of people found our way to each other and started talking, really talking. I noticed the energy created from being open, sharing how we felt, and supporting each other was palpable. I/we had this weird energetic reaction and I thought ‘I don't know what this is but the world needs more of it’.
I was already experimenting and then connected the dots - it's moving through the energetic (anxious) reaction by reaching out, accepting vulnerability, saying how you feel, and truly connecting that makes you feel alive. How could I do more of that? (it's addictive, in a very good way, once you start).
And that's what Plight Club's about - rebelling against staying the same and showing up as who you truly are. The name came to me when on a bus going past a Flight Club - I loved how they'd taken the movie title and moved the stigma around darts from an old man thing to do into the mainstream.
The words, Plight Club - the first rule is: you DO talk about it, just popped into my head. Then I laughed to myself. Then... holy shit! That moment of laughter, and connotations of the cult movie, could soften the entry to talking about feelings just enough to open the door for people to step onto the path of really connecting with themselves and others.
That's when my mission to change the face of vulnerability and help others fear less and connect more began...